On Manners
In light of learning about basic concepts and power words, we’re talking about manners. We know you want to raise your kids to be kind and respectful people. So where do manners fit in when it comes to language? Manners matter, right? Are they power words? These are all good questions! Today we hope to bring clarity and point you in the right direction.
This is worth taking the time to think about
When deciding what vocabulary words to begin teaching a toddler, words like please and thank you are not our first choice. This is especially true for a child that is just beginning to talk or isn’t talking much at all.
Think about it. If “please” and “thank you” are 2 of the 5 words that your child can say, will these words help them communicate effectively? Do they help them communicate their wants and needs? Will these two words decrease your child’s frustration during communication? Probably not.
Hear us out. We aren’t saying don’t model politeness or teach your child manners. We personally value manners in our own homes! We’re simply offering a perspective that will help you better understand power words!
Note: Power words are everyday words that can be used in many situations or daily activities. The use of these words can elevate a child’s ability to communicate with you and others!
This isn’t wrong
Yes, you may know that your child is wanting to be picked up if he reaches his arms up and says “please”. But without the arms reaching (gestures) and the word please, would a grandparent, babysitter, or another family member understand? This isn’t wrong or bad. It’s our goal and mission to help you help your child communicate effectively.
Here’s what’s better
A better choice for him to use would be the word up. This one word can be used in so many ways and each time, a different meaning can be conveyed. Here are a few examples:
to request to be picked “up”
to throw a ball “up” in the air
to put a book “up” on the shelf
to wake “up” a doll
to put the toy “up”
MOVING FORWARD
Isn’t language amazing?! Can we encourage you to help your child establish a solid list of 5-10 power words first? This looks like modeling and teaching them 5-10 meaningful words. Write them down and make a list if you’d like! Then, if manners matter to you, make that a goal for you and your family.
A kind reminder: Eyes on your own paper. Your list of words doesn’t have to look the same as your friend or neighbors.
Can we ask you a question? Will you share your top 10 list with us? No judgement? Let’s rally together as we pursue raising our kids and supporting them as best as we can. Go Team!